A more earnest way of being. /men\\women/

It is not obvious, but I must state I am all in for equality and feminism.

Lately, I bump into pieces of information, which made me reflect on this topic: In many ways I envy men. It’s not about “white men” privilege, even though it may seem so. I’m trying to pass through the thorns to the stars, and make you see past what seems to be the truth from the first sight.

Men have more guts than women. You do more and think (doubt) less. You are more out in the world than women. You believe in yourself more (usually). You can speak up for yourself more, you trust yourself, you put yourself out there as you are, you are less shy and doubtful. And that belief and confidence get you further than you would get without it. You see the world simpler and more straightforward. There are more clear answers. in 50% of cases this approach works out. I own the other 50%.

I admire all that and I learn from men.

I invited a man for a morning date to my place. He comes in and looks around, orients himself, and slowly conquers the territory. I loved it. He looks like a hunting animal, checking the environment, confident, not planning to hurt anyone, but I could feel he was owning the place. It was subtle, not pushy, not arrogant, but with visible power.

It is psychologically connected to not being able to bear a child. Let me explain: a man does not need to think and carry all that millennia weight of caregiving for a child, as women do. Hence they have more capacity for conquering the world. This is one of a hundred different perspectives. That’s where the feministic voice inside me would start. And that is also true. I’m saying that both things are true. Women rightfully claim that giving a child is the most sacred thing. In reply, men can claim to bring achievements into this world and enhance progress exactly because of the opposite reason. I see harmony and balance in it. Don’t you?

Epilogue

I started writing this article a month ago, draft shows the title “pushy men by nature”. I’ve come a long way up to an almost opposite conclusion. I must state, I’ve met a lot of pushy men when I had to protect myself and set sharp boundaries. Such need is amplified while dating, as a single woman. Unfortunately, I always should be on alert. I consciously choose a brighter side, because I know there is more than one perspective to anything.